And Then You Came

They say, the best people come in your life when you least expect it. I was depressed and my heart ached, and then you came. You taught me how to love and how important God was.

You had the answers to all my questions. I miss the way you told me bedtime stories. The hours we've spend texting about the most random things. I didn't even notice how I fell in love with you. With every part of you. I fell in love with your hair, your brown eyes and your crooked smile.

I got used to you, used to everything. Everyone said I changed. In only three months. No one could ever do what you did and I love you for that.

I love you so bad that I can't think of you without crying. It's like my heart is exploding and screaming your name. Over and over again.

I love you so much that I would donate my kidney to you. Because a life without you is no love. Without you, my dearest,my love...there's no me.

You're the brightest of all. The sweetest of all. And still i'm waiting, craving for the moment you ask me to marry you. I guess that's all I ever want. Marry you, be my wife forever, share the same life, same bed, same house. To share with you is all I ever want to do. But even if the day won't come, and you find love in someone else... please know that you're the bluest sky.

Maybe God has other plans for both of us. Still I pray, each day, for us to get together someday.

Not so sure what love is

Sometimes I am not sure what love is. Sometimes I would find myself asking is this how love is suppose to feel?

There used to be days I was really sure what it is. Moment of first love that innocent fluttering feeling which comes out and lives within me with excitement made me confident this was probably was love was. Fresh and new and full of excitement. Then in the midst of smiles and laughter, tears came along..with anger and pain. What seem to me like it was everlasting love, flew out of the window in just a blink of an eye. Questions began to rise, isn't love suppose to be everlasting? or is it just a spur of the moment thing? Can you really lose love with time?

Second and third relationships ended up the same way. Things such as 'I felt love in the beginning, but somehow I lost it with you... you'd be better off with another better girl' became a common quote. Innocent image of love gets lost in the process. All you'd recall is just how 'love' doesn't last and that well maybe you just don't know what exactly love is.

Funny, how easy it is sometimes to forget all those happy moments you share with a person that you've build together for a period of time in just a blink of an eye... then later on only recall the pain which acts as the base for the defensive mechanism you unknowingly build around you. Sometimes I guess maybe I chose not to believe in love so I don't get hurt again.

I'm back again on the track but I am not sure what I am feeling is really love, or just a longing to be with someone, since I've seem to have a misconception. The image of love began to be blurry. What exactly it is begins to be uncertain. I doubt almost everything and just things flow, but I can't really feel like I am all there.

In the end I am still not sure.

See Me

I don't really care if anyone sees this or not, it's not really the kind of thing to get published. I just had to say it- I'm in love. That's it, just love! And she doesn't know, and she can't know. The consequences our relationship would create I'm savy enough to understand, and God knows what she thinks of me day today since I'm so much younger and dumber, but I don't care. I'm past caring. Every little ambiguous feeling of doubt that hung around, that still has reason to hang around, is slowly being dismantled because I realize the truth. Ego rem intellecto. If I could scream it on rooftops I would. And I want her to know because if she points out one more guy or girl that I should date I think it might come out anyway.

I want you. It is you! and I think it's only ever going to be you. Not in that 'I'll never find anyone else' sort of way, but I'll never find anyone as interesting, intelligent, witty, funny and perfect for me again. Sometimes I just stare in wonder, and you see it, and look at me like I'm crazy. But you don't understand how crazy I am for you. No one knows. No one needs to know. I'm up and I'm down and in and out and I've realized I don't want it any other way. It's you. It's always been you. I loved you before I knew you. Yes, it happens, even if we're not together.

This isn't a good story, you're just that person I talk to and can't touch. The one who I'll either marry or think about when I'm marrying someone else. I don't necessarily know what true love is, but you've got the rhythm that matches mine. Turn around one day and let me know if you see me too.

YOU

Do you remember, the time when we were high? When nobody could reach us. When nothing could break us. Do you remember, the time when I thought you cheat me, but i never did. When I always got jealous to those guys. When I kept you from all wild lions. Do you remember our first rain in the middle of July? I touched your hand tight, so did you! We were screaming from above, like we were a dictator. Do you remember my fright of losing you and your fright of my departure? Do you remember?

I do always remember. Our sweet, unique, memorable, and various conversations. I always miss the time I can say "Good morning, sweetheart! A new life has began! Have a good day :)" and i will see your reply "You too, my sweetheart! I love you" and then I smile widely.

I've been missing you since the day we broke up. Since the day we never did it again. Since the day I saw you dated with the wrong guy. Since the day for the first time i got a karma. I used to love you so much, admit you as everything, chill out together and nothing can break us. It's been almost 2 years, yes that's long time isnt it? I'm still alive with my own life. I try to fight back, to keep stand for what I want. Try to shoo your shadows which freak me out and remind of past love. I am still trying! I am still fighting!

Sneak Peek One Direction! Profil lengkap!

One Direction adalah Inggris-Irlandia boy band yang terdiri dari anggota Niall Horan, Zainal Malik, Liam Payne, Harry Styles dan Louis Tomlinson. Mereka menandatangani kontrak dengan Rekaman Simon Cowell label rekaman Syco setelah terbentuk dan menempatkan ketiga dalam seri ketujuh dari The X Factor. Mereka kemudian ditandatangani di Amerika Utara untuk Rekaman Columbia.

One Direction merilis album debut mereka, Up All Night, pada bulan November 2011, menjadi rekor yang tercepat dalam penjualan album debut mereka di Inggris tahun 2011. Pada 2012, debut mereka menjadi nomor satu di US Billboard 200, membuat One Direction kelompok pertama dalam sejarah Inggris untuk debut nomor satu dengan album pertama mereka. Rekor yang diraih pada Official UK Singles Chart top ten singles-”What Makes You Beautiful”, “Gotta Be You”, dan “SOne Thing”. Pada tahun 2012, “What Makes You Beautiful” memenangkan penghargaan untuk Single Inggris Terbaik pada 2012 Brit Awards.


1. Niall Horan 

Nama Lengkap : Niall James Horan

Lahir : 13 September 1993

Asal : Mullingar, County Westmeath, Ireland

Agama : Kristen

Film fav. : Grease

Warna fav. : Hijau

Alat musik fav. : Gitar

Twitter : @niallofficial

Niall James Horan (lahir 13 September 1993 di Mullingar, County Westmeath, Irlandia) lahir dengan ibu Maura Gallagher dan ayah Bobby Horan. Dia memiliki kakak yang lebih tua Greg. Orangtua mereka bercerai ketika ia berusia lima tahun. Dia dan saudaranya hidup antara masing-masing rumah mereka untuk beberapa tahun sebelum akhirnya memutuskan untuk tinggal bersama ayah mereka di Mullingar. Ibunya menikah lagi dan tinggal di Edgeworthstown, County Longford dengan Chris, suaminya tujuh tahun. Dia adalah seorang murid di Coláiste Mhuire, seorang anak laki-laki Christian Brothers sekolah. Horan berada di paduan suara sekolah, melakukan musiman sekitar Natal.

2. Zayn Malik 

Nama Lengkap : Zayn Javadd Malik

Nama Asli : Zain

Lahir : 12 Januari 1993

Asal : Lane Baildon, Bradford, UK

Agama : Islam

Twitter : @zaynmalik

Zain Javadd “Zainal” Malik (lahir 12 Januari 1993 di Rumah Sakit St Luke) adalah dari West Lane, Bradford, Inggris. Lahir dari ayah Inggris Yaser Pakistan dan ibu Inggris, Tricia Malik (Brannan née), ia memiliki tiga saudara perempuan Doniya, Waliyha dan Safaa. Ia dibesarkan di East Bowling, terletak di sebelah selatan pusat kota Bradford. Malik adalah seorang murid di Sekolah Dasar di Bawah Fields East Bowling dan pergi ke Sekolah Tinggi Tong, sebuah sekolah negeri yang komprehensif. Dia menyatakan bahwa sebagai seorang anak “Saya sedikit sedikit ketika aku masih kecil karena saya cukup hiperaktif Bahkan di rumah ibu saya yang digunakan untuk menempatkan saya di kereta bayi saya karena saya begitu penuh-on..” Ibunya mengungkapkan tumbuh dewasa: “. Zainal selalu bermain musik di komputer dan bernyanyi bersama untuk selama berjam-jam” Malik tidak cocok pada pertamanya dua sekolah karena warisan campuran nya, mengungkapkan bahwa ketika ia dan kakaknya pindah sekolah ia merasa cocok lebih baik.

3. Liam Payne

Nama Lengkap : Liam James Payne

Lahir : 29 Agustus 1993

Asal : Wolverhampton, West Midlands, UK

Agama : Kristen

Hobi : Main Basket

Aktor fav. : Adam Sandler

Twitter : @Real_Liam_Payne

Liam James Payne (kelahiran 29 Agustus 1993) adalah dari Wolverhampton, West Midlands, Inggris, lahir tiga minggu dini untuk ibu Karen dan ayah Geoff, dia memiliki dua kakak perempuan, Ruth dan Nicola. Sampai usia empat, Payne menjalani tes rutin dilakukan di rumah sakit sebagai dokter melihat salah satu ginjalnya adalah bekas luka dan disfungsional. Untuk membantu mengatasi rasa sakit, ia memiliki 32 suntikan di lengan pada pagi dan sore sebagai seorang anak. Ibunya akan menyulap pergeseran sebagai perawat kamar bayi untuk menemaninya pada semua audisinya. Dia menggambarkan dirinya sebagai “anak nakal di sekolah.” Dia mencoba untuk tim, akhirnya menemukan tempatnya di tim lintas negara dan datang pertama. “Sejak saat itu saya berlatih sepanjang waktu dan bangun jam 6 pagi untuk menjalankan untuk mil. Pada usia 12 mereka menempatkan saya di bawah 18 tahun tim sekolah.

4. Harry Styles

Nama Lengkap     : Harry Edward Styles

Lahir                     : 1 Februari 1994

Asal                      : Holmes Chapel, Cheshire, UK

Agama                 : Kristen

Film fav.               : Love Actually

Lagu fav.              : Shine On You Crazy Diamond – Pink Flyod

Hobi                     : Main tenis dan badminton

Twitter                  : @Harry_Styles

Harry Edward Styles (lahir 1 Februari 1994 di Evesham, Worcestershire) adalah dari desa Holmes Chapel, Cheshire, Inggris. Dia adalah mantan murid di Holmes Chapel Komprehensif School, sebuah sekolah negeri yang komprehensif. Lahir dengan ibu Anne Cox dan Des ayah Styles, dia memiliki kakak, Gemma, ia berusia tujuh ketika orangtua mereka bercerai; ibunya kemudian menikah lagi untuk Putar Robin. Mengenai perceraian orang tuanya dia berkata, “itu adalah waktu yang cukup aneh saya ingat menangis tentang hal itu.. Saya tidak benar-benar mendapatkan apa yang sedang terjadi dengan baik, saya hanya sedih karena orang tua saya tidak akan bersama lagi.” Setelah perceraian, Styles, kakaknya dan ibunya pindah lebih jauh ke pedesaan Cheshire. Pada usia dua belas ia pindah kembali ke Kapel Holmes. Saat itulah ibunya bertemu ayah tirinya Putar Robin. Styles mengatakan dia “sangat senang” ketika Putar diusulkan kepada ibunya. Sebagai seorang anak ia mencintai bernyanyi. Styles adalah penyanyi utama untuk band Putih Eskimo dengan anggota band gitaris Haydn Morris, bass gitaris dan drummer Nick Clough Sweeny Will.

5. Louis Tomlinson

Nama Lengkap : Louis William Tomlinson

Lahir : 24 Desember 1991

Asal : Doncaster, South Yorkshire, UK

Agama : Kristen

Film fav. : Grease

Band fav. : The Fray

Twitter : @Louis_Tomlinson

Louis William Tomlinson (lahir 24 Desember 1991) adalah dari Doncaster, South Yorkshire, Inggris. Lahir dengan ibu dan ayah Johannah Troy. Johannah berpisah dari Louis ‘ayah Troy ketika ia masih muda dan ia mengambil nama belakang ayah tirinya Mark Tomlinson itu. Dia memiliki empat muda langkah-saudari: Charlotte, Felicite, dan kembar Daisy dan Phoebe. Dia mengatakan tumbuh dewasa, dia selalu menginginkan adik kecil tetapi memiliki empat adik perempuan mengajarinya banyak hal tentang wanita. Dia menambahkan “memiliki banyak saudara yang telah pasti membantu saya dengan anak-anak juga, orang selalu mengomentari bagaimana nyaman saya sekitar anak-anak saya benar-benar mencintai bayi dan anak-anak..” Ketika Daisy dan Phoebe memiliki peran sebagai bayi di sebuah pertunjukan yang disebut Teman Lemak, ia akan pergi bersama dan berfungsi sebagai tambahan. Setelah Teman Lemak, ia menghadiri sebuah sekolah akting di Barnsley.

Hancur Rasa #Puisi

Cintamu selalu terbayang

Muncul dipikiran terbang melayang

Menunggu kehadiranmu tak kunjung datang

Kudamba sebuah tenang

Kau bagai kunang-kunang di pagi hari

Beradu diri bersama sinar menatri

Tapi aku mati!

Karena cintamu membunuh nyali

Bersama cintaku kukubur diriku

Langit senja pergi bersamamu

Meninggalkanku bersama kesendirianku

Kekal terlanjur sepiku

Kehilangan cintaku dalam dirimu

Kau menipu rindu

Mengerdilkanku dengan egomu

Menghempas jauhkan pengertianku

'So Sick' - Sam Tsui ft Max Schneider (Cover)

Guys! You gotta check this video out! It is incredibly AW-SOME!! A cover video by Sam Tsui ft Max Schneider. They covered So Sick original song by Ne Yo. And yes, try to listen it well and apply it with your heart today, lol 

The Best Promise You Could Ever Break

We are so cliche. We finish eachother's sentences, sometimes I think you're a mind reader.

I cannot count the times in a day we say the words "I love you" yet this countless amount never seems like it's enough. I love you infinity past beyond, because this love really does transcend this universe. Your love for me makes me grow childish-a feeling more amazing than could be described- for while everyone is busy trying to grow up and move on, you bring out the joyful youth in me. You've reminded me what being happy is and have shown me that I've been missing out on happiness for far too long. The first time you told me how you felt - that you loved me - my heart seemed to melt and overflow my ribcage. This was a feeling like no other. People say they get butterflies around "that" someone, that they feel all warm and fuzzy inside and that their heart just melts as it is overcome by such a strong and pure emotion. I doubted that possibility, laughed a bit at how cliche it seemed. I mean of course I'd fantasized about the possibility, but I never thought I could feel that way so literally. When we first started talking, you promised you'd never fall for me or see me as anything more than a friend because I was frustrated with the girls in my life who couldn't just be my friend. I thought I just needed a friend. But what I needed was you.

And darling, we are the best promise you could ever break.

We are so cliche. We fawn over eachother, constantly declaring our love and proclaiming every possible reason why our love is the perfect love. We'd get so deep into these conversations of outpouring affection but then try and pull ourselves out, for fear of being too cliche. Like today, when you said we were "losers and oh so cheesy". I told you that "honey, cheesy is what it's called by the people that don't get to experience it. And as far as I'm concerned, as long as it's real then I love it and shall not frown down with 'cheesiness nonappreciation'" . You said "that's probably the most sensical thing i've ever heard". I smiled.

Because that's what I do when I see you, or hear you or read something you write. I smile. You always give me that instasmile. You are the sunshine in my life when I'm a stormy cloud, so together we create a rainbow. And that will never make us cheesy.

I love you, my sunbow rainshine.

I Want To Love, Love YOU!

Everyday I tell myself that your not longer a big part of me. Sometimes I really believe it, sometimes I actually think that you don't mean a god damn thing to me. Every time that thought appears I feel relieved, I feel less vulnerable, it feels like you can't affect me anymore.

I've repeated this thought so many times that I've almost made it true. At the same time it makes me so freaking scared of moving forward, cause what happens when you stop loving someone? What happens when you someday wake up and realize that this person actually doesn't mean anything to you? How can you manage to go from 1000 to 0. Cause that day will eventually come. The only thing you have left is the beautiful memories that you hopefully will carry with you your whole life. But I'm so afraid of that day coming, because I don't want it to. I don't want it to happen because I want to love. Love you.

Love,
Arf

Cynthia's Birthday Surprise!

Yesterday, September 23th was Cynthia's birthday. She finally got her 17 years old. Dan gak segampangnya saya melewatkan momen sekali setaun itu. Yap! Bersama Dherta, Irfan dan Mas Satya kita kasih kejutan buat dia. Dan saya pikir, ini bener-bener unpredictable surprise! Haaha. Kita datang pagi-pagi jam 7, bawa tepung, bubuk kpi, air, dan roti serta kado spesial yang Cynthia gak pernah bayangin sebelumnya.... AYAM! Hahahaha
Ini dia beberapa foto-foto kemarin

Together we took a pict

Early Sunday morning btw

Me, Pasha and Irfan. We just seemed like a daddy

Here for you, sweetheart Cynthia 

And the unpredictable gifts for cynthia

Get your madness!!!

Gave the gift

One Direction - Live While We're Young + Video and Lyrics

A new music video by One Direction has already came! Come check it guys! 

It looks fresher than the previous ones, and happier of course! Looks no worries only happiness

God damn that sugar spice

She got a little bit Carried away

'Cause I bring you up high

Then I bring you down low

Then I bring you back again (whoa-oh-oh)

That stuff is not the never enough

When I give it and I take it away

Cause I bring you up high

Bring you down low

Then I bring you back all the way

You're saying oh my love

I can better keep up

You're draining my soul every night

And all these drugs really got me messed up,

More than I've been in my life

Just stop, you worry too much

You ain'ta always gotta know just why, or when or what.

So stop, you worry too much ohyohyoh

You ain'ta always gotta know just why, or when or what what-what-what-what-wa-oh

So chill out, what you worried about?

Take a couple little pills and your worries'll melt awa-a-ay,

Oh my love will not you open me up?

Take a little from the middle

And then SEW me back up aga-a-ain

God damn that yellow light,

I got a little bit a Carried away

So I hit a quick left

Then a quick right

Then I bring it back home again (Whoah-oh-oh)

This stuff is not the never enough

When I give it and take it away

'Cause it brings you up high,

Brings you down low,

Then it brings you back again

You're sayin 'oh my love

I can better keep up

You're draining my soul every night

And all these drugs really got me messed up,

More than I've been in my life

Just stop, you worry too much

You ain'ta always gotta know just why, or when or what.

So stop, you worry too much ohyohyoh

You ain'ta always gotta know just why, or when or what what-what-what-what-wa-oh

So chill out, what you worried about?

Take a couple little pills and your worries'll melt awa-a-ay,

Oh my love will not you open me up?

Take a little from the middle

And then SEW me back up aga-a-ain

So chill out, what you worried about

Take a couple little pills and your worries'll melt awa-a-ay,

Oh my love will not you open me up?

Take a little from the middle

And then SEW me back up aga-a-ain

So chill out, what you worried about?

Take a couple little pills and your worries'll melt awa-a-ay,

Oh my love will not you open me up?

Take a little from the middle

And then SEW me back up aga-a-ain

So chill out, will not you worried about?

Take a couple little pills and your worries'll melt awa-a-ay,

Oh my love will not you open me up?

Take a little from the middle

And then SEW me back up aga-a-ain

A New Life After

Can’t breathe. What’s wrong? I open my eyes. My chest is tight. There’s a lump in my throat. My breath is caught. My eyelids are heavy. What’s wrong?

Something’s changed.

I’m single.

Sucking hole in my chest. It’s tiny. But it hurts.

I wish I could speak French. I would board a plane to Paris, and see the world. As a free man, I can now do what free men do. Maybe I could then write in French. Maybe they’ll have the words to describe how this feels.

I am scared. My breath is caught again with fear and anticipation, excitement and trepidation. Thoughts of new loves or maybe even old loves renewed.

No. I will not think of her today. I will not.

But she is fading away. Should I not savour the last embers of her that remain- before she, and all her beauty and beautiful flaws, and her giggles and cuteness, before they are lost forever to the passing of time? Because of her, things will never be the same again.

And I am now so acutely aware that I am only me, singular, and I need to get to know me again. I haven’t really been me for 2 years now.

Time to get up, me, whoever you are.

Things Are Different Now

Things are different now. No other eyes are as captivating. No other smile is as contagious.
No one else’s words are as reassuring. No other arms are as comforting. I don’t long to hear any other voice on the other side of the phone. I don’t get butterflies at the thought of anyone else. Things are different now. When another walks by, I no longer give a second look. It’s like no one else exists; no one but you. They say that “love is blind;” and if anything, I’m only blind to everyone else. No one can measure up to you. They always fall short. Things are different now. Seeing through the eyes of love is like seeing under a microscope. I see things in you that I could never see in others, with my old eyes naked of love. Each little quirk, story, and moment with you are like the cells that make you who you are to me. The more I know you, discover things about you, the deeper I fall, captivated by the simplistic nature of who you are. It’s as though I’ve discovered something for the very first time, and now that I know of its existence I can’t imagine a world without. Things are different now. As I learn about you, I am also learning about myself. I’ve never felt like I quite belonged in this world until now. Until I had someone to walk beside me, encourage me, dream with me. Things are different now. I smile at the thought of you. I cry at the thought of being away from you. I fear, always have and always will, but with you it’s a different fear. It isn’t so much a fear of you causing harm, but a fear of losing you to the unknown. Things are different now. I let my guard down. Give you a straight shot to my heart and all that I am. I trust you. Something that is not easy for me to do. Things are different now. I love this difference: the joy, the anxiousness, and the longing. I hate this difference: the unknown, the risks, and the doubt. Things are different now. Please, be careful. I never thought this would happen. I had given up hope. But here you are…my hope in love, in true happiness, in the future. Things are different now. Thank you.

Funny Things #Poem

it just happened one night

she just walked into my life

the details are fuzzy

a combination of alcohol and tiredness

but she was there, on the street

or rather on her lawn

and it was like she was calling my name

but i didn't know it,

not yet anyway

everything about her draws me in,

her pale green eyes that light up when she smiles

her voice, her arms, her every move.

and that smile that knocks out my fears

everything about her gives me comfort

and falling into her web was out of my control

it was inevitable

attraction is a funny thing that way

no matter how wrong it might be

it clouds your mind, it takes over

and the next thing you know

you're caught

but the worst part is you don't even care

you can pretend to struggle,

pretend to be weak

but the truth is you want to be there

limbs tied down, heart pounding

refusing to move

wanting nothing more than to be trapped there

to be unable to break the spell

and you could care less

that's the way it is with her

i get stuck in her essence

and not a single part of me wants to pull away

i'm perfectly content with being devoured

besides, attempting to resist is pointless,

why try and avoid something that great.

something that makes it hard to speak

something that makes you unable to think

and blush whenever it crosses your mind

so, regardless of how wrong it might be

i think i'm just going to soak it in

i'm going to lay with my head on her shoulder

while she runs her fingers through my hand

and i'm going to listen to the sound of her heart.

because i can't imagine life without that sound anymore.

its embedded in my brain, and i refuse to let it go.

and i'm okay with that.

its not something i'm going to regret

and its not something i'm willing to give up.

I Hope I Can Trust You

Am I a horrible person?

I was happy with our relationship before because I knew you liked me more than I liked you. I had the power. I was grateful for the fact that if you changed your mind and wanted to back out, I would not be crushed like I have been in the past. I knew that I could be adored by you without even having to try. I liked you because of the attention you gave me, and the lack of effort I had to make. It was so easy.

But petty weeks turned into great months and I found that I have fallen for you. I love your crazy hair. I love your effortless optimism. I love how you are so self-assured, but also the least cocky person I know. I love that you trust me with your heart, even though it has been tossed aside in the past. I wish it was still so easy.

I pray to god that you are a better person than I am. I hope that you don't realize that I relinquished all my power to you. You now have that sovereignty that I was so fond of. You have the potential to break me, and I have never been so fucking terrified. I have been broken before so please please please be more responsible and kind with my heart than I was with yours.

It doesn't have to be this power struggle. It's like that one trust game at camp where everyone would stand in a circle. Then, slowly, we would all sit on the person behind us so that the entire circle was supported by ourselves. Neither of us need the power. There is no supremacy when we both throw in our hearts and our trust.

I know you trusted me, even when you shouldn't have. I hope I can trust you, even though I know I already should.

Mengatasi Bad Mood

Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa perempuan lebih gampang stres dan “bad mood” dibanding laki-laki. Terutama menjelang menstruasi yang lebih dikenal sebagai premenstrual syndrome. Berikut ini adalah tips untuk menghalau “bad mood” yang mengganggu produktivitas dan kreativitas kita.

1. Olahraga

DENGAN melakukan gerakan-gerakan olahraga hingga berkeringat, zat endorphine akan dikeluarkan oleh tubuh. Pengeluaran zat kimia alami tubuh ini membuat tubuh merasa nyaman karena zat ini tergolong zat yang bersahabat buat otak dan juga dapat menghilangkan rasa sakit. Itulah kenapa orang yang senang olahraga selalu keliatan fit dan happy.

2. Tertawa

Terapi tertawa untuk mengurangi stres sudah banyak dilakukan orang. Tertawa 5-10 menit bisa merangsang pengeluaran endorphine dan serotonin, yaitu sejenis morfin alami tubuh dan juga metanonin. Ketiga zat ini merupakan zat yang baik buat otak. Kalau tubuh dirangsang untuk mengeluarkan zat-zat ini kita akan merasa lebih tenang.

Kendalanya, tertawa untuk alasan yang tidak lucu dan sendirian kadang susah dilakukan. Tetapi tidak berarti sendirian tidak bisa. Jika memang tidak ada obyek yang bisa membuat kita tertawa, paksakanlah untuk tertawa. Ambil cermin, lihat diri sendiri dan tertawalah. Tidak perlu berpikir bahwa kita sedang melakukan hal konyol. Katakan bahwa kita sedang mengendalikan perasaan tidak enak dalam diri kita. Orang bijak bilang “orang yang sehat adalah orang yang mampu menertawai dirinya sendiri.”

3. Relaksasi

Relaksasi banyak macamnya. Ada yang membayangkan suasana pantai yang indah dengan empasan ombak dan embusan angin menerpa wajah. Atau membayangkan suasana pegunungan yang hijau asri dengan bunyi air terjun yang menerpa batu-batu. Atau membayangkan apa saja yang kita sukai.

Ada juga relaksasi otot, yaitu dengan menegangkan dan mengendurkan otot-otot. Coba tegangkan otot-otot di tubuh kita, rasakan otot yang menegang itu. Lalu kendurkan perlahan-lahan. Rasakan bedanya ketika dalam keadaan tegang dan kendur. Misalnya, kepalkan telapak tangan kuat-kuat selama setengah menit, rasakan ketegangannya. Lalu lepas pelan-pelan, dan rasakan. Lakukan untuk bagian-bagian tubuh yang lain biar semuanya terasa lebih rileks.

4. Latihan pernapasan

Cobalah tarik napas dalam-dalam melalui hidung. Rasakan perjalanan udara di dalam tubuh kita. Tahan sebentar lalu keluarkan perlahan-lahan lewat mulut. Ambillah posisi serileks mungkin. Kuncinya, sadarilah setiap perjalanan udara di tubuh kita saat masuk maupun saat keluar. Saat marah pun lakukanlah latihan ini, biar kita enggak terbawa emosi. Ini bisa juga dilakukan untuk mengurangi nervous.

5. Menangis

Menangis, salah satu cara mengurangi ketegangan. Dengan menangis, zat-zat yang enggak baik buat otak seperti adrenalin yang menyebabkan ketegangan dan kecemasan bisa berkurang karena ikut keluar bersama air mata sehingga kita akan merasa baikan.

6. Berendam di air

Berendam di air membuat tubuh kita rileks karena aliran darah diperlancar. Rasakan dan nikmati sentuhan air yang menyelimuti seluruh permukaan tubuh. Lupakan pikiran-pikiran yang bikin kita bete, fokuskan ke air yang menyentuh kulit kita. Bisa juga ditambahkan bunga-bunga yang wangi biar sekaligus jadi aroma terapi.

7. Berpikir positif

Perasaan-perasaan negatif umumnya berasal dari pikiran negatif. Apa yang kita pikirkan akan memengaruhi perasaan kita. Maka, untuk mengubah perasaan-perasaan negatif itu kita bisa melakukannya dengan mengubah isi pikiran kita. Pikiran-pikiran negatif digeser ke pikiran yang positif. Misalnya dengan mengingat hal-hal yang menyenangkan. Bisa juga dengan mengingat impian-impian atau cita-cita kita. Tanamkan di hati dan pikiran bahwa untuk meraih cita-cita itu dibutuhkan semangat.

8. Curhat

Pergilah ke salah satu teman dan berceritalah. Dengan bercerita, beban kita akan terkurangi. Pilihlah orang yang benar-benar bisa kita percayai dan bisa mendengarkan sehingga kita merasa aman untuk bercerita. Ceritakan apa yang membuat kita bad mood.

9. Lakukan hobi

Kreativitas itu muncul kalau kita dalam keadaan rileks. Hobi juga bikin kita rileks. Kalau kita bisa gitaran, ambil gitar dan mainkanlah. Bernyanyilah sesuka hati. Kalau senang ngutak-atik, carilah barang-barang yang rusak di rumah lalu perbaiki. Nah, bermanfaat kan?

10. Menulis

Cobalah menuliskan semua yang kita rasakan. Identifikasi emosi-emosi yang kita rasakan. Tulis semuanya dengan bebas. Enggak perlu mikir, yang penting tulis. Biarkan tangan kita jadi pelampiasan kekesalan, kesedihan, atau kesepian kita. Ini tidak hanya membantu mengeluarkan apa yang kita rasakan, tapi juga membantu mengenali diri sendiri.

11. Tidur

Tidur bisa juga dijadikan terapi untuk mengurangi kemarahan dan kesedihan. Perasaan-perasaan negatif kadang muncul dari pikiran-pikiran kita yang cenderung memandang persoalan dari sisi negatif. Sehingga otak menjadi tegang dan emosi terganggu. Dengan tidur, kita memberikan kesempatan pada otak untuk rileks. Pikiran negatif akan terlupakan. Ketika bangun biasanya pikiran kita jadi berbeda dari sebelumnya.

Dari beberapa tips di atas, kita bisa coba semuanya lalu tentukan mana yang lebih efektif buat kita. Dengan begitu kita tidak akan lagi dikuasai oleh emosi-emosi negatif sehingga kita tidak perlu bad mood lama-lama.

Source : http://ndelon.wordpress.com/2008/04/24/tips-mengatasi-bad-mood/

Alasan #Poem

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Sepi ini yang kurasa

Tak terabaikan atau bersalaman

Detak jam seolah menghantui

Menngolok aku yang seorang diri

Iri ku melihat mereka luapkan rindu bersama

Berbagi canda dan tawa di langit senja

Tatkala senja berganti malam

Aku masih sendiri dan terdiam

Sehati tapi tak sepikiran

Aku ingin bersama orang yang aku inginkan

Salah dan terhina

Menyadari hanya karena aku kesepian

Tapi aku punya alasan!

Cukup kau tahu, aku tak mau menyiakan

Atau menyakiti hati yang telah kau isyaratkan

~ Arfian Syahriza

That Boy

I'm that boy who wake up each morning thinking, this is the day. I'm that boy who hates going to sleep alone. I'm that boy who doubts himself. I'm that boy who thinks no one can love him. I'm that boy who still though believes in true love. I'm that boy who's a hopeless romantic. I'm that boy who overanalyze all the little signs. I'm that boy who smile when he sees your name pop up on the phone. I'm that boy who just wants to hold your hand. I'm that boy who will text you out of the blue just to let you know how much I love you. I'm that boy who will kiss you when you ramble on. I'm that boy who will laugh when you laugh. I'm that boy who will always be there for you. I'm that boy who misses you. and even though I haven't found you yet. I still miss you. I'm me.

I’m dreaming of the day I get to meet the girl of my life. dreaming of the feelings she will awake within me, how it will feel to just look at her knowing that she is only mine & I only her. knowing that whenever I want to I can just walk up to her & give her a kiss because she will be all mine. to hold, to love & to cherish.
I’m dreaming of the day I can sneak up in the morning to cook her breakfast & wake her up with a kiss & a smile. introduce her to my friends, we’ll drink some beers at my place before going out in the night surrounded by friends, music, lights & her. walk home at dawn with her, laughing & holding hands.
I’m dreaming of the day I can tell my mom & dad to put another plate on the table, to introduce her to my whole family & see their smiles. getting to meet her parents, her friends & realizing that she’s making me a part of her life. I’m dreaming of the day I can feel safe wherever I am because I know she is out there somewhere loving me just as much as I love her. I’m dreaming of the day I can say “I love you”
I’m waiting for the day I will see you & know my dreams have come true. I'm dreaming I want to be next to you, be able to hug you, share everything with you, spend my time with you and be happy with you...


~ Arfian Syahriza

Apakah aku terlambat? #ShortStory

Masih terngiang jelas bagiku, tentang sebuah waktu yang mempertemukan kamu dan aku, Di waktu itu, tepat dimana aku mulai mencintaimu. Menyayangimu sepenuh hatiku dan aku mengusahakan segalanya untukmu, hanya agar kau bahagia bersamaku. Kamu tidak perlu tau seberapa besar pengorbanan yang telah aku lakukan, kamu tidak perlu peduli, aku mencintaimu. Kau yang memiliki mata terindah yang pernah aku tatap, kau yang memiliki pipi terhalus yang pernah aku elus, kau yang memiliki rambut panjang yang selalu kuurai. Kau wanita yang mencium mesra keningku di hari kasih sayang februari itu. Kau wanita yang selalu membangunkan aku dari keterpurukan dan bangkit melaksanakan perjuangan. Kau wanita yang menjadi idola semua pria. Kau milikku dan akan selalu milikku. Terdengar manis bukan bagimu?

Tapi aku akan menulis, dan juga aku berfikir.. Tuhan memang masih sayang dan melindungiku. Sebuah waktu kembali muncul, berbeda dengan waktu aku mencintaimu, berbeda dengan waktu aku elus pipimu, berbeda dengan semua yang dulu. Waktu itu baik, dia mempertemukan kamu dan aku kembali. Diatas bangku kayu didekat pohon bambu di taman kota, aku melihatmu bercumbu mesra dengan orang yang tak seharusnya. Kau beri ciuman hangat dikeningnya dan aku cemburu. Sangat cemburu! Dan kini aku tahu, ternyata selama ini aku memberikan banyak pengorbanan besar dan berat pada orang yang salah. Sejenak aku berfikir, mungkin aku manusia paling bodoh didunia yang mudah tertipu oleh outside looking. Bukan mungkin, tapi memang! Tuhan dan malaikat berbisik lirih ditelingaku seketika, "Kau seharusnya tak akan lagi menjadi seperti itu". Bisikan lirih yang mengenyuhkan hatiku dan pikiranku. Tapi tidak, aku tak mendengarkan mereka, aku mengingat, terbayang-bayang oleh wanitaku. Aku terpuruk dan bisa berjuang.

Suatu malam aku membalas dengan doaku "Setelah sekian lama aku tidak pernah bisa, aku terlalu mencintainya meski ia telah menyakitiku dan meninggalkanku. Apakah aku terlambat untuk berubah? Apakah aku salah tak mendengarkan-Mu?" Dan Tuhan serta Malaikat tak pernah berbisik kembali kepadaku. Dan kini aku tahu, hanya diriku sendiri yang bisa melakukannya.

#ShortStory
~ Arfian Syahriza

Tak Apa #Poem

Tak Apa

by @ArfianRv

Ku biasa tak didengar

Beradu diriku sendiri bersama sunyi

Ku biasa tak dihirau

Ku coba meredam kala kalbuku menggebu

Tak apa kawan!

Kutau pertemanan ini sudah rawan

Tunjuk tangan bersalam kesendirian

Kau keluarkan pedang spekulasi

Bersamanya kau buatku terdegradasi

Meninggalkan kasta tertinggi

Kembali berlabuh pada divisi

Tak apa kawan!

Mauku jangan ganggu sisa kawanku

Lepas jangkar dari hidupku

Minyak dan Air tak akan bersatu

Kuharap kau tenggelam bersama kabut abu

Dan tak pernah menyapa pagi buta bersamaku

#Dedicated for someone I hate the most

~ Arfian Syahriza